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Delightfully Divorced … Simple Tools and skill sets to get you through and beyond this phase to the life you never even dreamed of!
What happens after a violent scene in the home? This online resource is like a centre for the soul. It can be for both divorced or divorcing persons (men and women) can gain simple tools to help them through this ordeal or to heal afterwards. Tools can be phrases, audios, books and of course there is the counseling - a vital part of mentorship that aides the person talking and ensuring the tools are effective both in application and in the situation.
Who is Delightfully Divorced for exactly what does it offer?
Here I can not stress enough that during the procedure of the divorce itself it is vital to have composure, calmness and kindness. As I came through a violent marriage, not on the horror side of violence really but violent nevertheless, it was a necessity to gain composure before I could even become aware of what was happening to me and in my idilic married life!
Healing from a divorce is a process;
and healing from a violent place is a different kettle of fish altogether! So my path and story is very lucky in some ways for I had become aware of my situation before I left and was in the forgiving phase as I was leaving. This probably made it easier for me and I still find it hard to say ‘I am an amazing woman, yes.’ And I am, I took away my 4 children and my laptop to nothing but a new school in a new town and found a house within 2 weeks - that is the power of these tools.
But don’t get me wrong I had been using them for years before hand and mastery is a question of belief really, so anyone can do it and time is just a notion after all isn’t it?
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Delightfullydivorced aims to empower beings, into their full potential and for that they must be free of all past pressures.
What motivated you to start an online site for both men and women?
The very fact I have 2 boys means that I have to have a different outlook on it all. My eldest son (20 yrs old at the time) made sure I did not go down ‘the victim of a beaten woman to become a feminist’ route. Many heart wrenching discussions and debates later I thank him for it whole heartedly. The fact that men abuse is on the rise substantially in the UK, in the USA the number of men committing suicide has never been so high, and I have a number of male friends who went through quite violent times themselves. The tools I have are for the mind and I have done a lot of neuroscientific research pertaining to the differences in brain functions of males and females and have adapted my tools accordingly. After all though, one of my first tools is a simple phrase to start grounding yourself and becoming aware and it goes like this… “Everything comes to me with ease, joy and glory.” I think to say it 10 times a day is simple enough and whether you are male or female is neither here nor there for that one ;)
Once you elevate yourself to the energy level you need to be for total forgiveness, you don’t really see in anything but energy levels, good or bad rather high or low vibrational levels too.
What type of content and tools can I expect on delightfullydivorced.com?
Online you can find video talk throughs, articles and other such elements that are common to all sites. There are modules some free some courses and counseling that are priced. What I would really love for people to get is the feel for it, emotions are everything and they start your vibrations going. You see I am a scientist by training (Chemistry BSc) and I have always seen everything around me as vibrating atoms! (http://catpayen.com/about-cat/)
I also can never forget the phrase ‘It takes 2 to tango’ So as far as I am concerned all this was my fault or more precisely my choices and my doings. From their you can go to forgiveness and start a newer life- one of freedom form all.
What are steps you can take during the process of afterwards?
- To heal from the violence is the first and best point they can do.
- Counselling with a professional is essential also - I recommend EMDR (this is the french way of saying it) where the rapid eye movement means that you can now process the ordeals you lived through rather than try and not have them present - whole different brain processes involved and the spiritual outcome is huge and uplifting for us victims of abuse.
- Children - a whole chapter of life itself…
- They have to go through their own process;
- They are stronger than you think;
- You do not have to hold it together for them;
- You do have to make sure they see both parties - should you fear the other parent’s lashing out then talk to the other parent not the child;
- ‘Ducking’ up will happen and don’t hold yourself solely responsible for it all - you are human too!
- Bite your tongue!! Should you slip up refer to above point ;)
- Accept what is - this takes time
- Try for the sake of the children to make the best of the situation and get along with the other parent (getting very tipsy helps - personal experience!)
- These sorts of tips can be found and are of use for males and females, more specific articles for males and females are present also. This enables both parents to see how the other parent is seeing and living the situation too.
- My aim is for all to get better each individually not back together and my children quickly stopped saying or wishing we would get back together!!
- VERY IMPORTANT be kind to yourself
- Journal every day - even just a word is better than nothing;
- Have a ‘happy’ music playlist and put on the music;
What after delightfully divorced?
There is the friends missing aspect of it - I was married 27 years so I am in need of a friend and I help you discover ways to come around that.
This is not a lovey dove experience but a tearing apart of either a couple or a family unit so bear that in mind and when you reconstruct you will be a different person.
And to get you started :
You get my book and a free 15 mins consultation too ;)
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